Introduction:

Love happiness taught me I can have happiness without romantic love.

Did you know happiness comes from within?

I moved from South Africa to Croatia. However, my life changed. I had to accept that change.

I tell my story in the form of love and happiness.

Why do I call this title Love Happiness?

I love happiness!

Everything changed for me and only I could do that to gain happiness again but in a different life.

I want you to know you can have both love and happiness.

It depends on you to have happiness from within. Love yourself before you love someone else.

While living in Croatia I learned I can have happiness without love. A breakthrough in a foreign country. I had love but happiness in me had vanished for some time.

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What/who taught you to love life?

I lost my mother a few years ago. I felt hurt and in disbelief, I sat alone on the bed. I heard the news early that morning. Everything changed in that moment for me. Alone and feeling confused my world stopped.

Unfortunately for me living so far from home tore me down. Our last time together a year before her passing I treasure.

I share my experiences and learned to be happy through all times in my life.

Why love happiness?

You don’t know when, why, or how something will happen to you, a family member, or a loved one you are close to.

You take life for granted and forget the important people in your life. You try to do whatever you can in a day.

Life taught me the hard way.

You go through tough times, sadness, depression and lose touch with reality. Family is important no matter where you live.

What creates this life for us?

People create their space.

The time you have you choose to spend by yourself without interruption.

You do what makes you feel comfortable.

Do you do what makes you happy?

Wherever you choose to be, are you happy with your decision?

Are you often missing something in life?

Do you often wish you had more of something in your life?

Those who don’t have it don't miss it.

For some reason, you want more from life.

There isn’t a proper explanation for why you want more than others.

I feel happiness when I am with my family. Don’t get me wrong I have been happy living where I am for the past 22 years. It is a life for me in which I have missed everything being with my family. The moments I can’t get back.

I decided to love happiness.

I love what makes me happy.

Some people spread their happiness from one to another. It's contagious.

I spend time with those people.

Is love all you need to be happy?

You need love, hope, joy and something to do to be happy.

Without love, hope, joy and something to do you will be a total wreck.

A smashed train broken into pieces that may not be put together again.

Someone secretly loves you, what do you do?

Do you accept love in your life?

Do you believe there will be love in your life?

Are you hopeful in life?

The love you have inside of you is the love you will always have.

What compels you to live?

Your being gives you the energy to compel life.

Love and happiness are valuable to you. It is most important to live.

Without love and happiness, your life won’t exist.

Love gives you happiness.

Or does it?

Protecting love is valuable and in your possession.

How do you defend that love?

You draw a circle to protect love.

As you grow older you have many circles to keep you safe from harm. These circles are defence mechanisms.

In your conscious mind, there is always the outermost shell to protect you.

Interact with others and you avoid contact.

In a way, you ensure that nobody gets close to the love inside you.

I’ve heard people say they don’t have any love to give. As they get older the defence mechanisms kick in.

Two people from different backgrounds meet for the first time.

What do you do?

You bump into someone with a glimpse of something that caught your eye. In that moment you let down your defenses.

What happens to you?

You get closer to the one you least expect, right?

It feels good when you get close to someone else.

You close to this person can you feel the love coming from them?

As you experience the little bits of life you meet people.

You are bound to experience the varied levels of intimacy with them.

Some friends you don’t tell about yourself and other friends are just for good times. You get closer to friends and share about yourself with them.

People exist in your life. At some level of closeness, you determine who you want in your life. You let down defences to let someone in but you get closer to one person with whom you feel love.

Being around strangers will make you feel distant around strangers.

Around friends, you feel free to let down your defenses.

This allows you to open up more to close friends.

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It gets good when you are around warm friendships.

You know when you are falling you have no control over that.

There's a sense of danger when you begin to fall. You can’t stop yourself. In the same way, when you fall in love you can’t stop it.

That great moment when you get closer to the love inside of you.

At some point, you say something hurtful to the other person and the other person hurts and becomes vulnerable.

You hide vulnerability so the other person doesn’t see it.

All this happens to you and go back to a safe distance to protect yourself again from the evil persons.

Love doesn’t cause you pain. It is the situation you associate yourself with that allows it. You do this to yourself from your mind sending these signals. Open up again to get stronger when you experience pain again.

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I can’t avoid the negative in life. Being positive is a way of life for me.

I feel love but it is my love not love from the other person.

I am blissfully happy in this relationship. I feel safe. I stripped my defences left and right feeling this way. I have exposed more and more of myself because I feel so much love.

Suddenly you hear this from the person you feel love. ‘’ I can’t do this anymore, you and I’’

How did I feel after hearing such words?

An illusion, right?

Everything came from me. I felt safe and I was mistaken. I was embarrassed and vulnerable to pain from what I thought was true love.

I grappled with the fact that the love I felt came from somewhere, didn’t it?

I have contact with the love inside me and I feel love inside me.

To express the love I have for someone else I have to be in touch with love in expressing it to the other person.

Here is another example of why you don’t feel the love someone expresses.

Why don’t I feel the love someone expresses to me?

I see that no matter where the other person is geographically they would still feel the love.

They don’t have to be next to me to feel love.

You visit them and feel this joy, happiness and love like nothing has changed.

It is normal to open up to someone you love.

Your mind convinces you to forget love.

You can’t love again.

However, if you choose to love happiness, love comes in between.

You are encouraged to feel love.

Have you ever had that experience when you express love to someone who may not be able to handle it?

Sometimes you love someone and express that love to them, but you don’t get a response.

Some people have a deep sense of self-loathing like a negative voice that invalidates everything about them. These people pretend to have a happy face.

A phoney facade you have for everyone that isn’t seen by everyone the real you.

They don’t know what is going on with you.

That someone expresses their love and you are faking it.

Good energy comes to you but you are showing anger, pain, shame and animosity toward them.

These points prove you can’t feel love from another person. Your feelings are important to you, not the other person’s feelings. You feel unworthy of their love.

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It doesn’t require anyone to give back love to you.

The other person can hate you while you will still love them.

You both will get hurt if you act out love expressions, you learn to withhold the expression of love for someone else.

Why doesn't he express love?

You feel for him but he doesn’t for you. He built a wall between you and him. Strength to build a wall and to push you away.

It feels easier to avoid pain.

You feel your love but not the love from the other person. Love comes from your mind.

How can you tell if someone is in love?

What is genuine love?

You seek love, hope, happiness and joy.

Genuine love and potential scams are hard to differentiate.

You meet someone and you feel interested.

Consistent behaviours coming from love show you over time.

Sometimes actions are too good to be true.

There is a red flag staring you in the face. Too good to be true.

Any conversation about finances or an emotional issue always respects their boundaries.

Challenging, isn’t it?

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What does it mean to love happiness?

Love connects you to others and happiness can be nurtured by love. Both signify a well-balanced lifestyle.

Love is positive, slowly dissolving the negative side of life.

For example, you love, you feel great.

You do not think of negativity. It is the level of happiness enjoyed while you have it.

Love makes us happy but both emotions are different. If you love someone you feel happiness with that choice. Think about it carefully. The feeling of love isn’t surrounded by joyful moments. You do not have joyful moments all the time when in love.

You think you have everything in love. It can be exhilarating but love has nothing to do with happiness.

Falling in love is one aspect of love you tend to fall for more than to stay in love.

Without a friendship in your marriage, you fail at happiness.

You understand the one you love with your heart not with your mind.

It is your mind that controls your emotions.

Happiness is from a choice you make in life.

Do you feel happy or need something or someone to give you happiness?

You want and want more to make you happy. Unfortunately, happiness doesn’t satisfy you.

What is happiness to you?

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Both love and happiness you feel or you don’t.

You can share love and you can share happiness.

You want to spend time with someone when you feel love. Happiness is when you experience a positive moment.

Caring for someone or yourself is also love.

Some people cherish love and for them love means happiness.

There is a thin line between love and happiness.

You love someone and choose to be happy with yourself.

Happiness that is not forced on you.

True happiness is when you love someone and feel happy from within.

You love yourself first then love someone else you want happiness with.

To love someone is it a choice or a feeling?

Love is not a choice, it just happens when you least expect it.

You fall in love with anyone at any time.

People do for others not out of love, it is a habit. It doesn’t mean you are helping someone because you love them.

For example: I helped my ex. It is what I wanted out of kindness. I didn’t do it out of love.

You sacrifice for someone that's not love, it is a choice.

Happiness is a way to solve problems.

Love on the other hand is a choice as happiness is.

You can choose to be happy and choose to be in love.

Everything depends on you.

There is only one path in life that is happiness.

Be who you want to be without love or happiness your life is a waste.

Love comes to you if you choose to love someone.

You can’t avoid pain in life.

It is normal to bear pain.

However, you see life as the negative and the positive is a challenge.

Only you can choose how to allow this to affect you every day.

Dealing with problems and happiness helps you figure out the issues you can’t solve.

Whether you are alone or with someone, love your life.

Love makes me smile and giggle when I am with someone special. I rejoice in the little moments I spend with him. We share a happy life.

It has a power over me I can’t explain this time we share.

Love is sweet when you have it with someone you truly want in your life.

In other words, I have experienced love and happiness because love created that for me. Sometimes people find love and don’t appreciate it. They throw their love away for stupid reasons.

How much does love help you in life?

How much does a lack of love prevent you from happiness?

You think you have it all until you lose it all.

I know for a fact happiness is love.

The first day I met this person I had happiness. Everything changed for me from that day on. I smile more and when with him I feel elated.

You can be successful, have a big house, a fancy car and earn a good salary. Without love and happiness, you have nothing.

I was sad after my mom passed and I found happiness again with someone different. I looked at the closed door for far too long to see a new door had opened for me.

The problem with many people is you look too long at the closed door.

Happiness is what you do in the moment as in harmony.

I am happy and often it looks like I am crazy or a teenager.

You have bad memories that bring you happiness.

For example, if you had a bad childhood looking back at what caused your bad memories brings you to choose adulthood.

Let the past go and be happy. Try not to dwell; it doesn't help everyone dwell.

My life is challenging and I learned to accept where I am to have a fulfilling life.

I make the most of every day.

Acceptance is great.

Despite who we are and where we come from happiness is shared through love. Our hearts need love and happiness to grow and to feel those incredible moments.

A healthier lifestyle for us.

Share our stories to bring us happiness.

Happiness is deserved in your way.

Through experiences you accept happiness, through love you have both. Everyday experiences treat you to pleasure to enjoy,

The ball is in your court, whatever you choose to do make sure it makes you happy.

I have been in situations where I did things that made me unhappy for a long time. One day I opened my mind to a new chapter.

I had to stop doing everything that made me angry or that I didn’t want to do.

I didn’t avoid unhappiness but I chose to be happy. Everything else worked itself out. Most people don’t see what causes unhappiness because they choose to please others.

I believe in myself.

Remember you come first choose what you want to do not what others want you to choose.

You are in control of your choices.

Any decision you make will affect you for the rest of your life.

How do you feel right now?

Momentary mood

Are you satisfied with relationships, health, work, finances, and life overall?

Happy people are calm.

It doesn’t mean happy people do not experience setbacks.

They feel frustrated, disappointed, sad, and at a loss. These moments make them feel stronger.

Happy people have a unique way of coping with their setbacks. Unlike others, they are willing to take on challenges.

Pursuing their passions, they learn to let go, embrace change, be kind to themselves, and create meaningful life but with happiness.

You can build happiness with family, work, friendships, and faith.

I learned to be happy without high expectations.

Despite setbacks, you can live a happy life. You just have to know how to cope with occurrences.

Practice gratitude

Engage in events and acts of kindness.

Share good news and celebrate with others feeling happy.

Increase self-esteem to boost happiness.

Participate in healthy challenges.

I learned the Croatian language in my mind and brain. I didn’t give up!

I had no idea what I was expecting but I chose to move to a foreign country.

I built intrinsic motivation.

I focused on what made me happy. I didn't please others. I chose to live my life in my own way.

In my life, I had to work out what worked best for me. I appreciate the challenges.

I cultivated optimism and practiced positively, refraining from my circumstances. Along the way, I adapted to another culture. I believed it wasn’t easy.

In a foreign country, l learned through challenges. Though I felt unhappy at first I gradually found happiness from within.

Firstly I took care of my physical and mental health. It is my way of achieving my goal of happiness. I appreciated the little things I had for a happier life. I struggled with living conditions.

Appreciate what you already have rather than focusing only on what you still desire.

Avoid the temptation to complain and reinforce negativity; cultivate optimism and practice positively reframing your circumstances.

You will never be happy when you wait for someone or something to create happiness.

You Can Be Happy Now

Deal with the now and focus on your happiness.

Happiness is a state of being.

It is plain and simple. Even though you may not have everything you want or need you can still be happy.

What causes you to fall into unhappy moods?

Behaviours, cultural practices, or the unhealthy pattern you choose to follow.

Sometimes you do what makes you unhappy.

My first time in Croatia was a culture shock. Nobody I spent time with understood that. It was the most difficult time for me.

I, myself, didn't understand it.

Some thought I didn’t like them or didn’t want to mingle with them.

How could I have explained when I had to work out my life in a foreign country?

There was something inside me that told me to stay.

The first day we arrived here I immediately changed from the life I left behind. I knew then as I do now it is what it is.

In that moment I could see happiness slip away.

There wasn’t a day that had passed for years without me being sad, frustrated and annoyed with some event. This happened for a few years.

I felt homesick.

How was I supposed to visit back home?

I was unemployed. I felt at my worst being away from my family.

Life taught me to be happy in its own way.

After my first visit back home to South Africa after almost 3 years, I told myself I had to live, enjoy and love more.

I felt relief and happiness was my choice. I didn’t look back since I found happiness again.

Through the experience, I had love too.

Is love and happiness connected?

Everyone seeks happiness.

Some don’t seek love because they will get hurt by love.

Usually, you want things that make you happy.

Heartbreak causes unhappiness.

Many broken hearts and a lot of unhappiness.

Spiritual love, divine love. Love is the source of all happiness.

If you develop this love you have happiness.

I decided to have meaningful relationships to make me happier, reduce stress and meditate.

If I continue to search for what happiness consists of I will never live if I look for the meaning of life. It is up to me to be happy and love happiness.

Going through tough times does affect happiness. You need to control happiness in your actions.

Help individuals bounce back from challenges.

Resilience gives you a positive outlook on life.

Love and happiness between you and yourself are connected to influencing the other.

Loving relationships lead to increased happiness. When you have happiness it enhances the quality of love in your life.

You can’t be happy with someone you don’t love.

For example, you have a pet.

If you don’t like the pet you will not be happy having to take care of it. If you do not love someone you can’t be with them. It will make you unhappy.

In your right mind, you determine what gives you happiness.

I can’t give you happiness just like nobody can give happiness to me. Imagine I waited all this time to be happy. I would have been a wreck.

You show pleasure when you have happiness.

It is mostly when you feel happiness it comes from the love you have for someone.

Love and happiness are intertwined.

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What happens when you are in love?

You smile, and blush, you get the attention you always wanted. Someone you have with a positive energy besides you. There's a connection between you.

These are signs of happiness.

Happiness comes with love but for a short period.

After a while something goes wrong and everything changes.

Everything you do for the first time gives you joy.

So continue to create something new to be happy and in love.

Love and happiness for some people are connected if they are focused on materialism.

It goes like this without happiness there is no love but without love, you can have happiness. So it is only happiness which connects to everything.

Do you need love to be happy?

You feel happier without having romantic love.

In other words, you can be happier without it.

Love and happiness can come from various sources, including:

Relationships:

Love often stems from deep connections with friends, family, or romantic partners. These bonds provide emotional support and joy.

Accomplishments:

Achieving personal goals and milestones can bring a sense of fulfilment and happiness.

Acts of kindness:

Doing good deeds for others and experiencing their gratitude can generate love and happiness.

Shared experiences:

Creating memories and sharing moments with loved ones can foster love and happiness.

Passion and hobbies:

Engaging in activities you're passionate about can lead to a sense of purpose and joy.

Positive mindset:

Cultivating a positive outlook on life and focusing on gratitude can enhance happiness.

Chemical reactions:

Physiologically

Love and happiness involve the release of certain neurotransmitters and hormones, such as oxytocin and dopamine, in the brain.

Ultimately, the sources of love and happiness can vary for each individual, and they often intertwine, contributing to our overall well-being.

Is love happiness?

You need any kind of love to be happy, but no. Love in itself is not happiness.

Someone could love you, but you could not love them. This means that love could cause them misery, or make them content. Love is a very fickle thing, a trickster and a blessing. The happiness you must find within yourself.

You fail to find happiness within yourself. I am afraid you will never be happy in your lifetime. No one can make you happy.

How can love bring happiness?

Personal and impersonal love.

Personal love is between persons and depends upon reciprocity the give and take of relationships.

Impersonal love is about altruism and acting for the benefit of others without personal expectations.

How can Personal love bring happiness?

In different ways, Personal love can bring you happiness.

Romantic love can be exhilarating for a few weeks.

When the romance wears off, the work begins. In this relationship, you have emotional stability.

You invest in each other, work out problems and learn from each other.

A good social life makes you happier.

You need happiness from within.

Love is not always happiness.

One is not always happy, cheerful or content, there is sorrow, disappointment, and anger, true love is faithful if it is indeed true.

It will remain regardless of bitterness, grief, or stressful moments.

True love as stated in marriage vows, is in richness or lack of health or Illness, true love is faithful, it sustains above, overlooks and forgives all that is not good.

A proverb says the rich have many friends, but the poor even abandon them.

Love is not like that, love is powerful, and true love will be present in sunshine or storms. I feel this, like sharing tears, bearing anger, deep passion, volatility and fragility.

True love is redemptive, forgiving, tolerant, and accepting even after loss and pain. I wish I could be that happy, cheerful person, but life isn't like that for many, certainly not for me, my love wipes away the tears, stands with me in stress, and comforts me in silence, cosy and sheltered within from the thunder and storm out.

Love and happiness are complex and deeply interconnected emotions that play significant roles in human experience.

Love

Love is often described as a profound affection for someone or something. It can take many forms, including:

Romantic Love:

Intense emotional and physical attraction between partners.

Familial Love:

Bonds between family members are described by loyalty and support.

Platonic Love:

Deep friendships that do not involve romantic or sexual attraction.

Self-Love:

Acceptance and appreciation of oneself are essential for mental well-being.

Love can foster a sense of belonging, security, and fulfilment, and it often motivates people to act selflessly and compassionately.

Happiness

Happiness is a positive emotional state described by joy, contentment, and satisfaction.

It can be influenced by various factors, including:

Life Satisfaction:

Overall contentment with life circumstances.

Pleasure: Enjoyment derived from experiences, activities, and relationships.

Meaning and Purpose: A sense of fulfilment from pursuing goals and values.

Happiness can be fleeting, tied to specific moments or achievements, or be an enduring state, shaped by mindset, relationships, and life choices.

The Connection

Love and happiness are often interrelated. Loving relationships can enhance happiness while happiness can deepen feelings of love.

Both are influenced by social connections, values, and experiences. Engaging in meaningful relationships and activities that foster love can lead to greater overall happiness, while a happy disposition can make it easier to form and maintain loving connections.

In summary

Love connects us to others.

Happiness is a state of well-being that is nurtured by those connections. Together, they contribute significantly to a fulfilling life.

Cultivating love and happiness in daily life involves intentional practices and mindset shifts. Here are some effective strategies:

Cultivating Love

Practice Gratitude:

Regularly express appreciation for the people in your life. Acknowledging their positive impact strengthens bonds.

Communicate Openly:

Share your thoughts and feelings with loved ones. Honest communication fosters trust and intimacy.

Show Affection:

Simple gestures like hugs, compliments, or small acts of kindness can deepen feelings of love.

Spend Quality Time:

Make time with loved ones. Engaging in shared activities can create lasting memories and strengthen connections.

Be Supportive:

Offer help and encouragement to friends and family. Being there for others nurtures love and loyalty.

Cultivating Happiness

Practice Mindfulness:

Engage in mindfulness or meditation to stay present and appreciate the moment, reducing stress and enhancing joy.

Set Realistic Goals:

Pursue personal and professional goals that align with your values. Achieving these can enhance your sense of fulfilment.

Engage in Activities You Enjoy:

Make time for hobbies and interests that bring you joy, whether it's reading, playing sports, or creating art.

Maintain a Healthy Lifestyle:

Regular exercise, a balanced diet, and sufficient sleep contribute to overall well-being and mood.

Connect with Nature:

Spend time outdoors.

Nature can boost your mood and provide a sense of peace and connection.

Combining Love and Happiness

Practice Forgiveness:

Letting go of grudges improves your emotional health and fosters healthier relationships.

Cultivate Empathy:

Try to understand others' perspectives. Empathy strengthens relationships and enhances emotional connections.

Volunteer or Help Others:

Create a Positive Environment:

Surround yourself with positive influences, through uplifting media, supportive friends, or a nurturing home environment.

Reflect on Positive Experiences:

Take time to reflect on joyful moments and loving relationships. This can reinforce your feelings of love and happiness.

By integrating these practices into your daily routine, you can cultivate a deeper sense of love and happiness, enriching your life and the lives of those around you.

Love Without Happiness

Yes, love can exist without happiness, and happiness can exist without love. Here’s a closer look at each scenario:

Unrequited Love:

One may deeply love someone who does not reciprocate those feelings, leading to heartache and sadness.

Difficult Relationships:

Love can persist in challenging situations, such as toxic or abusive relationships, where individuals may feel love but also pain and unhappiness.

Parental Love: Parents may love their children unconditionally, even in difficult circumstances that create stress or unhappiness.

Happiness Without Love

Self-Contentment:

Individuals can find happiness through personal achievements, hobbies, or self-acceptance, independent of romantic or social relationships.

Friendships:

People can experience joy and satisfaction from friendships and community connections excluding romantic love.

Life Satisfaction:

Some may feel happy based on their career, interests, or lifestyle, even if they are not in love.

Interconnection

While love and happiness often enhance each other, they are not solely dependent on one another. Many people find ways to cultivate happiness from various sources, while love can sometimes be complicated and fraught with challenges that may not always lead to happiness.

Love and happiness can coexist, but they can also exist independently, influenced by different aspects of life and personal experiences.

I experienced a long time of unhappiness living in a foreign country I had no idea of,

However, the experience opened my mind to many hopeful challenges.

It is up to me to open up to people, to remain who I am but to have happiness with or without romantic love.

Fact about love

You choose where you feel calm. It is not because it is beautiful, popular, or rich.

It is peaceful.

Well, it depends on who you are with. Sometimes a partner will stay because they want and it is not about peace.

You can sacrifice everything you have to be with someone and they don’t appreciate it.

Whether a good person or not he or she will stay if they want to be with you.

Everything in life isn’t about love.

Two people stay together if they are meant for each other.

Respect each other to have something worthwhile in a relationship.

If one truly loves one's partner they will receive respect and peace.

Words from someone make you fall in love but stay in love with their actions.

Don’t say ‘’I love you’’ unless you know the meaning of those words.

Honesty is key: Tell the truth no matter how painful or difficult you will see that someone loves and trusts you more.

There is a difference between love and being in love. Loving you is a choice; Falling in love with you depends on how well you treat and excite each other.

The honeymoon stage

You must remember this stage happens effortlessly. Nothing is forced.

Your time together feels wonderful.

You have the perfect soulmate. Moments together are like a dream.

Nothing stays the same when you go on to the next level.

It depends on what you are looking for in a relationship.

The testing stage

The second stage of a relationship is when feelings have faded. You expect it to be the same.

Unfortunately for most relationships, the testing stage is the reality. No longer does everything feel desirable; it becomes a chore.

You tolerate, accept or leave.

The testing stage of a relationship shows you the faults of your partner. You look for this and pick on it.

Now you see the acting is over.

This is when you see for yourself if you are truly in love.

Arguments and doubting if you are in love.

The give-in or give-up stage.

It is called the building stage the most difficult stage in a relationship.

The constant fights between you lead to anger and insecurity and you no longer see eye to eye.

Love is cold at this stage.

One of you will give up and start a new relationship for new love.

The winning stage.

A stage when you accept each other for who you are individually. You have flaws and different qualities, but you still choose each other.

You want to be together no matter what, right?

Most couples don’t last in relationships due to their fantasies. They want to last in the honeymoon stage.

Most of the love is instilled in a woman.

Emotions are in control and she can love more than a man.

Females as in mother, sister, daughter, or wife never let a man surpass her in love.

Happiness is contagious.

Some people find it hard to walk away from someone happy.

Also, you may find it hard to love someone happy.

Happy people are enjoyable to be around.

Falling in love is known to have a calming effect on a person’s body and mind. This, in turn, will raise levels of nerve growth for about a year.

People have problems everywhere, but that doesn't mean you have to be unhappy.

Remember, everyone has problems. You’re not alone in facing challenges.

Never give up happiness.

Everything depends on you. Yourself matters. Think of you first.

Value yourself and give yourself time but don’t let low self-esteem put you down.

Anyone trying to make everyone happy often feels the loneliest and unhappiest.

You deserve happiness, love, and care, not sadness, sleepless nights, or begging for someone’s affection.

You should be in a relationship where you’re loved, appreciated, and respected, not just tolerated.

Overthinking is the biggest cause of unhappiness.

Struggles today will strengthen you for tomorrow.

A warrior never complains about the difficulties of life; they overcome them.

I passed my hardest moments alone, while everyone believed I was fine.

You miss the small everyday moments of love in pursuit of the extraordinary. If you see it you already have what you are searching for elsewhere.

Do you know what you have and what it is worth?

Your being alive is a gift.

What are you in search of?

Love happiness.

Love gives you happiness but you already have happiness. It is how you perceive both.

Love is your very existence, not a mere emotion.

No matter who you are with it is up to you to make the most of that moment.

Life is full of love, life is full of happiness.

Change habits to be happy.

Connect with others:

Having strong relationships with family and friends is essential for happiness and well-being. Make time for the people who matter most to you, and let them know how much you care.

Forgive yourself and others:

Holding on to anger and resentment can weigh you down and make it difficult to be happy. Forgive yourself for your mistakes and forgive others for theirs. This doesn't mean you have to forget what happened, but it does mean letting go of the negative emotions holding you back. Let go of grudges.

Kaizen Approach

Kaizen is a Japanese term meaning "change for the better", referring to the philosophy of continuous improvement. Use Kaizen to improve yourself.

For example, instead of reading a whole book in one sitting and feeling overwhelmed, try reading a few pages daily.

Practice "Sisu."

"Sisu" is a Finnish word that roughly means strong will, determination, and perseverance, when things are hard. For example, running a marathon requires a lot of sisu. Use this in everyday life by facing problems head-on and not giving up.

How can I live a happy and fulfilling life?

Happy and fulfilling life everyone has their meaning to it.

Happiness

Never attach reasons to be happy.

Happiness is a feeling, not an achievement.

An achievement can be big or small, it’s not compulsory to always go for big, baby steps are always important.

To learn to love more than what you see, never love a person because they are beautiful because time can change everything. Love someone or yourself for who they are as a person.

LIVE FOR NOW!

You already have both of these qualities: love and happiness.

It is your fault if you think you don’t have these qualities.

You but you ignored and buried under the negative part of you.

Embark on a journey of self-discovery and self-love.

Pause reflects on values, desires, and what makes you happy.

Let go of negative, bad past experiences, and anything holding you from going forward.

Sometimes you don’t need therapy alone time to figure out your life.

Are you stuck in a state of existing, not living?

True love and happiness are not destinations. They are life-long journeys.

Go for happiness, it's the only one you can control. If love comes around, then more power to you.

You can't work on finding love, but you can work on finding happiness.

Finally, each heart knows its bitterness. No one can share it. Be confident and keep smiling. God is faithful and will not leave us. Stay blessed, keep smiling.

Lots of luck to you!

I say I love happiness because I love happiness. I can’t run from unhappiness, but I can cope with its negative side.

In my life, I have experienced unhappiness, as we all do, but knowing how to deal with the issue is what holds us together.

I learned the rules of happiness.

I don’t hate, I accept others, like and love others to be happy.

Living with hate will destroy your soul.

Life is too short to hate, hold grudges, and live with jealousy.

I don’t compare my life with others.

I never tried to be somebody else. I like myself and love myself.

I am the best version of myself.

I do not worry that it won't work out well for me.

I stopped worrying and that was the first day of my new life.

I believe in myself.

I had a wake-up call diagnosed with diabetes. It opened my eyes to a different life. I made a change not only in my diet. I had to enjoy myself more, socialise and love what I do more. It is what makes us see what is missing in our lives. Then I found happiness more than ever.

This is a choice to live my life to the fullest.

Love you have with someone and you do what you want not what others want you to do.

Be yourself, love yourself.

Do you think love is about finding the right person?

You are wrong!

Love is not about who you choose to be with, it is about understanding.

You can be with anyone you want if you are happy. That means a lot.

Love is about seeing the imperfect person you choose to be with.

All living beings search for happiness.

Everyone likes to be happy.

You seek happiness in this world. No matter where you live or where you come from. Happiness is key to your life.

Would you like to be happy in your life?

You want to be happy and have a peaceful mind.

The never-ending journey to pursuing happiness.

You chase happiness and seek happiness and you want to be happy.

However, you haven’t found happiness.

Why have you not found happiness if you have not yet found it?

Why don’t you find happiness in your life?

You are in search of happiness where it doesn’t exist.

Where are you seeking happiness?

Mostly materialism is where you are seeking happiness.

I see where I find happiness.

Of course, I will have pleasure from materialism but I won’t have happiness from within. Pleasure is temporary.

You have instant gratification from materialism.

Happiness is long-lasting and gives you contentment about yourself.

You are searching for happiness from a source where happiness doesn’t exist. You search in the wrong place and this leads to frustration.

Will you be able to find happiness in your life?

Yes. You can find happiness in your life.

How do you find happiness?

Happiness and sadness depend on your mind. A pure mind finds happiness.

How do you gain purity in your mind to find happiness?

I learned to accept what has been my biggest challenge.

I am a realist.

Life is filled with good memories, some bad memories, smiles, and you have miserable moments.

You don’t have an equal amount of experiences daily. In life, you don’t always have a bad experience.

In bad situations, you have two choices.

You can either focus on the pain and feel miserable about the situation or you focus on the lesson that the bad situation taught you.

I learned from tough situations and grew my life in a foreign country.

Nothing is permanent so accept reality.

I can’t control the reactions of people I chose to focus on my life. Nor could I control their opinions as we are all entitled to opinions.

Practice generosity.

A crucial part of our lives is practising generosity.

Give without expectations. I help others without expecting anything from my generosity.

I give without expecting anything in return.

It is normal to think you need everything nice to gain happiness. You gather things and feel happy.

Is that true happiness?

All it gives you is pleasure. Unfortunately, you do not gain happiness.

I observed people shopping and wanting more shoes, handbags, and clothes.

You see someone smile when you are generous with what you have, which is happiness. Nothing could give me happiness than the smile on my friend’s face when I gave him gifts. It was my greatest moment.

Forgive

Forgiving is one of the most important things you can do to move on to create happiness. Forgive yourself and others too.

You forgive others and yourself doesn’t mean you are fine with the mistakes of others.

Your heart is free when you forgive and it is not for that person you forgive it is for you to have a free heart.

People have made countless mistakes, and most important you learn from these mistakes.

In other words, you can be happy at the moment.

If you hold on to the past it will ruin your happiness. Any bad thing you have done in the past you have the privilege to forgive yourself and others too. In this manner, you start your life again and make it a better one.

Jealousy, greed and everything else you crave is temporary.

Happiness is long-lasting.

Forgive and let go for a happier life.

It depends on you.

Happiness is tied to your habits.

Find genuine happiness.

Everyone has a different journey.

We are not the same. You can damage the good side of you when you choose to be like others.

Grow yourself and be happy without an obligation.

You focus on having what others have where does that place you?

Happiness is from within a choice you make for yourself.

Stress interferes with your daily routine.

You can’t run away or ignore your stress.

Problems don’t get solved when you run from them.

Live in the present. Sometimes you don’t see what's around you.

Practice mindfulness.

Focus on now, not the future.

Why struggle when you can fix your problems?

Think a little more for yourself.

A smile is contagious. Smile and the world smiles with you.

Smile when you are happy and when you are not happy.

This gives you a happier emotion. I chose happiness.

I live like a tourist in my adoptive country. I visit historical spots to create fascination.

I get dressed up and take photos of interesting places. The experience was wonderful.

Pleasure is achieved with substances and behaviours.

Happiness is experienced through interpersonal connection and you as an individual. You have to rethink everything you do for yourself.

Including eating habits, having a social life and allowing yourself to be truly happy.

Your decisions are important.

Pleasure is short-lived. You have to keep at it to get the best out of it. Whereas happiness stays with you. Something you can often recall.

Happiness is not as intense as pleasure but happiness will last you longer.

Pleasure is purely self-centred.

A selfish self-centred emotion created by us.

Joy gives you everlasting happiness.

You are responsible for your actions.

Everything begins at home.

How you were raised and the culture you have.

You crave attention when you are a baby. As you get older you take charge of your life.

Life mistreats everyone.

Happiness is a choice, the simplest way to understand that is to obsess over what you hear from someone.

You use that negative emotion to affect you all day.

For days you go on about it until you create unhappiness for yourself.

Little things cause you stress which leads to unhappiness. So you do this to yourself.

The more you try to fight negativity like anxiety and sadness, the worse your experience gets.

You experience not only the unwanted mental state itself but also the fact that you fail to get rid of it.

That is why trying to suppress mild anxiety can turn into a panic attack and why forcing ourselves not to be sad often will work counterintuitively.

The same goes for negative thinking. Thoughts are beyond your control. You can’t unthink a thought. The more you try to get rid of a thought it persists. By thinking about it you invite the thought to stay.

Conversely, the mental state of happiness also seems paradoxical. The more you wish to be happy, the less likely you will succeed. If you stop desiring happiness and stop pursuing it directly, you are more likely to experience it.

For me, I feel happiness like a butterfly. The more you try to catch it, the more it escapes your grasp. If you stop searching, it might appear on your shoulder when you don’t expect it as everything else in life.

HAPPINESS IS ELUSIVE.

The Happiness Paradox

You can’t obtain happiness directly.

Happiness in this world comes incidentally. Make it the object of pursuit.

It will lead you to a chase never attained.

Whatever you pursue is no guarantee you will find happiness. The less you seek the more you will find.

You aim to feel happy I have learned to lower my expectations to avoid disappointment. There was a time when I had high expectations and I was disappointed, cried and couldn’t do that to myself.

I had to work out what worked best for me. I do without high expectations.

Life taught me to live happily but with the least of expectations. Your actions generate happiness.

I love happiness.

Virtue in wisdom, moderation, justice and courage are part of living well.

You make happiness come from your good deeds.

What you apply in your mind is what you get out.

Here’s a simpler solution - distinguish between trying to be happy and happiest.

If you’re always wanting to be happiest then of course it’s a tough precedent to live up to, but if you’re always wanting to just be happy then you choose to see the upside of every small thing and your mindset is opposed to being pessimistic or inclined towards despair, whereas gratefulness becomes easier regardless of the situation.

Stop chasing is to transcend your goals. I started seeking things that were more complete or difficult than my old goals and thus would reach my old goals in the process.

It is rarely worth it in the end. You have to be able to make yourself happy and not expect anything or anyone outside yourself to do it for you all the time.

Too many people are expecting something that's never going to come and after a certain time passes they can't deal with it anymore and snap.

Life showed me I had to do it for myself. I learned the hard way.

Sometimes I think I took my life for granted living in South Africa.

The problem is people seek happiness but do not seek peace.

Happiness is a fleeting emotion that should be experienced when it happens but you can’t search for a feeling. Just like you can’t make yourself sad on purpose it is natural when you don’t watch your thoughts.

I feel you are sad because you try to surpass or ignore your feelings.

We need to understand them. Not thinking about them is not a solution because you feel a certain way and it is impossible to ignore it. It is by feeling and understanding it that it will stop making you sad.

People sometimes think that one needs to do nothing to be happy, but, if you do nothing, nothing will happen to you, unless you got genetically lucky and need to be purged because you don't deserve anything they have as they didn’t work for anything or suffered like others. Some people are spoiled and don’t deserve it.

The trip to Croatia led to many challenges for me. Little did I know how I would cope.

I travelled out of the country to a place I became interested in and found peace. In time I grew wiser.

Throughout the trip, I was anxious not knowing much of the country I travelled to and living in a place I had not much interest in changing myself. I wanted this experience to travel out of South Africa. I didn’t know the challenges awaited me.

I did make a friend out of the experience and made some great memories.

"Happiness is like a beautiful garden; the effort of digging in the soil, sowing of seeds, weeding, watering and fertilising, plus the ongoing maintenance, enables us to enjoy the beauty." Vita, Duchess De Boheme.

You try to fight the current but it becomes harder when you go against the current. Instead, go with the flow and you will find your path.

I believe when you know who you are and what you want, the less you let things upset you. So live with what you have!

I believe this through my journey from South Africa to living in Croatia. Sometimes I feel this struggle never ends.

Happiness to me is a state of harmony or balance. Like many notes coming together to produce a beautiful song. Each of us needs things/notes that add up to a state of happiness. Seems to be the way of nature.

Everyone wants happiness in this corrupt world.

Happiness comes with self-contentment. I focus on the good of my situation and think about how bad it could be.

For example:

My life changed when I moved to Croatia.

I remember the good life I left behind that hurt me for a long time. I think of what I have and am grateful for that.

It is my choice to be happy.

Happiness is a circle of life. You cry, you experience tough times, highs and lows and start over.

Happiness begins with you and ends with you.

You don’t chase happiness, it is cultivated within.

I always had it within. For a long time I dwelled. I wished life in a foreign country could be the same as in my past. I didn’t know the experience would hurt so much.

I felt happiness when I had gone through many challenging times.

A state of being that grew stronger for me. I learned how to face life with clarity, purpose and inner peace.

I faced difficulties and navigated through my strengths. In doing so I created happiness that can’t be shaken through tough times in my life.

No matter what happens around me I have maintained an inner balance to my lifestyle. In other words, I have found my happiness in response to how I face up to challenges.

Change how you think to create happiness.

Challenges will always be there whether it is financial, a relationship, or stress.

You encounter moments that test your patience.

I responded to challenges with power. I am in control of what I do to be happy.

Regardless of what life threw at me, I focused on dealing with it.

We show happiness in our attitudes; it's how we approach happiness.

If you want to thrive long term, focus on a non-toxic lifestyle.

Following the same old routine leads to boredom. You have to change a routine to create happiness. Unfortunately, most people become lazy and don’t put in the effort. You fear, or ignorance, you don’t change the routine.

You don’t want to make a change.

I felt better when I made changes to my lifestyle in Croatia. Regardless of my current situation, I made the change to be happy.

Accepting the truths about my life in a foreign country raised questions.

We are wrapped up in our lives.

If you don’t pay attention to what goes on with others for a few moments, you will pay attention but erase that incident from your mind.

Think about it, you aren’t likeable by everyone. Some people don’t value you. It is a fact of life.

Happiness isn't about proving yourself to others. Live your life with those who accept you as you are.

What defines you?

You have the power of choice. You determine how to treat yourself.

Your feelings are caused by your thoughts.

The thoughts you create affect your feelings. Bad thoughts will cause you to be unhappy.

Start with your thoughts. Think positive and think good to create happiness.

I love happiness.

Negativity holds you back from being happy. I know there is no right time to do anything. Do whatever you want as soon as you think about it. If you wait for the right time you will not do it.

Why wait?

What you put off may never get done with that attitude.

I do what makes me happy.

Good relationships keep you happier, not fame.

You have to communicate and be sociable. Have a good relationship with a partner, family and friends. People who are socially connected live happier lives.

.Physically happier, and mentally happier when you surround yourself with positiveness. People less connected to a community are sad or depressed. They cannot communicate with one another.

You can be lonely in a crowd or at a marriage. but the quality of close relationships matters.

There isn’t time for bickering, there is only time for loving, caring and believing in yourself.

The Kingdom is within. Some days, when you feel offended or annoyed, irritable, subtract your soul from the moment, stand outside, and polarize the negative into a positive.

Feel empathy and speak light with no attachment to their reaction, attached to God's reaction.

That's the key to happiness.

The energies we carry inform us of happiness or sadness.it is normal to want more in life but sometimes one is just blinded by happiness when searching in the wrong places.

Are you having a good day?

Gratefulness is the secret to happiness. Once we all realize how incredibly lucky we are to even be alive on this planet and stop comparing ourselves to others, true happiness will find us

Why are you having a good day?

If you are having a bad day, why are you having a bad day?

Tomorrow, would you rather have a good or a bad day?

Sometimes too many good days feel too good to be true.

Much of the time our minds are like a balloon in the wind blown here in many directions.

For example; when things are going well, when things are going our way, we feel good.

We feel happy but when something goes wrong our minds become unhappy.

I was forced to work with a colleague that I disliked. My happy feeling disappeared.

I need to stop outsourcing my happiness and unhappiness.

I had to stop blaming what was going on in my life for the unhappiness I was experiencing.

I felt others were to be blamed for this unhappiness I had.

Unfortunately, it was me who didn’t understand the circumstances.

Happiness is in the mind.

My peaceful state of mind is attributed to happiness regardless of the people who I came in contact with or the circumstances.

I felt I was taken from a good life to a life I didn’t know existed.

When my mind wasn’t peaceful and agitated I couldn’t be happy.

I felt others were the cause of my unhappiness.

My responses to what made me feel this caused me unhappiness.

Rely upon your stable peace of mind.

Meditation is a mental action of concentrating on a peaceful positive state of mind.

Distractions make your life worse. You think you need to hook up with friends to be happy, but at times, this is a wrong decision. Hooking up with friends who don’t care about your needs is distracting.

Happiness is from within so you need to find what you are looking for and put pressure on yourself to be happy.

I feel happy when I am in a bad mood. I learned the skill to be happy in a foreign country. Life gets in the way of your happiness.

You yearn for a new start and meet different people along the way. I changed my habits to gain happiness.

I love happiness

There wasn’t anything for me to be happy here but to learn through the challenges. People look at me as a foreign person living here. I must speak the language.

Nobody spoke English to me. They insist I speak the Croatian language. I had a problem with their way of forcing everything on me.

I believed it was up to me to move forward. How to move forward? I didn’t know how. I met an English woman living in Cavtat. We communicated in English and it made a difference to me. I had found someone with whom I could talk about what I had been going through.

I had to share my experience with someone who understands.

Suzie understood me. She is familiar with where I came from and has been there for me ever since.

I balanced my lifestyle. I mingled with local people and I couldn't have a close friend.

People have their mentalities.

Understanding each other is difficult.

We are from different worlds.

However, I created a comfortable zone for myself.

In the beginning, I had to visit the local people. I didn’t like it. I didn’t agree with it but I visited. Each time I visited I felt unhappy.

My emotions were compressed and smashed down by challenges. It was easy to feel down and not a lot of excitement. I complained and the more I complained I grew into my world. I could feel the change in myself. I focused on the good. I didn’t force myself to feel good.

Be the one to lighten up your Day

Lighten up your path with a smile or a kind gesture.

Life is what you make of it!

You have experiences and everything happens for a reason.

There are events you can't prevent, and there are events that can ruin you for a lifetime.

Nagging at each other and thinking everything will work out is another issue with many people. The many incidents that one thinks they can avoid are often not the case because life is full of surprises and experiences.

The traumatic experiences lead to frustration and the constant thought of, ''if only.''

A precious gift to you that is not wrapped in a bow is a perfect gift to share your life with and to share your experiences with others in life.

It is a valuable lesson to learn from and through your experiences, you learn that the special moments are worthy and appreciated. Be it a car accident, or any mishap that puts you in that uncomfortable position life goes on and you move on with that experience.

Sometimes you wish you could retrace your footsteps and see how you could have changed your plans to avoid that accident. Unfortunately, you can't undo what has already been done.

How do you make the constant questions disappear?

Do you wish you could turn back the years?

I know what it means to wish the clock could turn back, but I don't think of my life in that way. Focus on what you can change and forget about what you can't.

The past is not a place to be. Through every experience, you learn a new lesson. See yourself as that great and happy person. During your worst times, you will feel nothing is going well.

The idea is to get up and feel stronger from that weakness you have experienced. People are hurt about everything or just something in life. You can waste your energy on something of no interest to you.

When you make the important aspects part of your life other parts of life become stronger and more positive. Think clearly and from a good perspective.

Everything happens to everyone at different times and in other places. You are sometimes discouraged and fail at what you try to succeed at.

Remember, you can always have what you want for yourself just be open-minded.

The key is to be hopeful and rest assured from within. You must create your future and when you do that your life will feel easier and less stressful.

Pressure doesn't have a hold on your chest. The light feeling allows for a greater and better experience.

Difficult moments in life open greater opportunities. The struggles increase and the best option is to face them and not to walk away from a problem.

You can fall into a trap in your mind and use your failures to be discouraged from negative experiences. Emotions shared openly allow for a smooth road to success.

When you choose to be happy and forget about what made you unhappy in your dreams can be followed with a clear mind. Often you lose touch with what is going on around you.

Deal with the important parts of your life and let go of what doesn't mean much. Every reaction to an event shows your strengths and weaknesses.

You rise every time you feel a sign of a challenge you can take any time.

People try more than once to succeed and those are the people who don't believe in giving up.

You don't know how brave you are until you have that experience. The experiences bring out your smartness and surprise you with your intelligence.

The many tough times you have passed make you the tough person you always are. Every challenge experienced becomes part of you. It makes no sense if you think you wish that didn't happen to you because you must meet up with that greater challenge.

The storm will pass, and you will see your capabilities in such situations. Each storm you face up to makes you that strong and happy person. Nothing in life will make you happy if you don't choose to be happy.

You have to show yourself how you can get out of a rut. The responsibility comes from you and only you. Pain is felt, but with pain comes your strengths. The opportunities are limitless.

Start from now to make a better life. It is not easy to start over again, but you can make a better start for yourself if you put your mind to it.

The problems you experience are a guideline for your future. Whatever you do for success is a move to make a difference in your life.

Tragedies experienced are not to make the weak individual to make you the stronger one. Look at traumatic experiences as another storm passes by you.

That doesn't mean you must forget about these experiences. Embrace your challenges and look at your happy life and the aftermath. Accept both the sun and the rain in your life.

You can't have sun; the rain must enter your life too. Greediness doesn't show the best in you. You can change the way you think about something that you don't like in your life.

Believe in what you do and don't be a quitter!

When you are happy with what you have, your explorations will be with what you want from life.

The light and the darkness affect you, so don't only focus on the light and forget about the darkness.

I hope you will always have it if you believe your lost dream will have a new one to take its place.

The issues will be solved. What you want will come to you when you least expect it.

Do what you love doing and be happy with what you have, it is important to show that appreciation to yourself.

You create and invent but to yourself, you create a new life and a new beginning. Finding yourself is not all you need to do.

I have met many people and through our chats, I noticed how I made them feel and that they won't forget.

You can't be the same every day and have the same attitude as everybody else. You take what comes to you and try to challenge that experience.

Courage, kindness, and forgiveness play a huge part in your life.

You can smile and laugh to show your true happiness if you are not perfect. By behaving in this manner you are not looking at your imperfections beyond that.

You often focus on the closed doors and forget to see the opened door to lighten up your path. Being energetic and positive through all times will feel much easier.

You don't see the best when you focus on negativity; you see the best when you smile at your worst moments.

The person who doesn't show their smile, show them your smile to make them smile too.

Second chances are there it is up to you to take it and make a life again.

Life is meaningful and precious to be yourself. Every moment is a special one.

However, you see your life and whatever you are planning, there are some events you can't prevent how much you try to get past that obstacle will happen to you.

Be positive and happy naturally

You could go through a major break-up or grieve the loss of a loved one. In any experience or event, you need to be positive.

No matter how bad the situation is, you cannot look away negatively.

In such situations, you somehow feel positive. When you choose to be with happy, and positive people, the experience can feel less heartbroken.

When in an emotional state you can hide your true feelings with friends. Your idea of being positive is the key to a happier life.

I remained positive living my life going forward and feeling true happiness. At times, I felt like everything around me hurt too much.

It happens in stressful times. Some people are not positive and live in denial. Others pretend to be positive in putting up a false front.

Their false positive attitude covers their negative attitude, and that can lead to major depression. I enjoy speaking up to people, but not to strangers.

Only with people whom I know and feel free to have conversations with. Smiling and getting on with conversations make me feel good and happy.

When I have a sad moment, it is overcome easily with positive conversations. I try not to let that side of me take over my life. Faking your happiness will hurt you more from within. The better idea would be to come right out with it.

Be direct about your feelings.

The behaviour that one practices creates a bad habit for a permanent way of life. This could destroy many relationships.

What have practised behaviours?

For example:

Any behaviour that is practised can be a problem over time from smoking to gambling.

Also, to ruin friendships or relationships from past troubled experiences.

Bad habits increase and the arguments. The situation went on for a while until one day the two once-so-in-love couples could no longer look into each other’s eyes. When they had nothing to discuss, or talk about, divorce, as thought of, became the option.

Practised behaviours can cause people to lose many marriages, relationships, or friendships.

You cannot pressure or force someone to do better if they do not want to. I do not get held back from what I want to do. No one will do it for me; I must do it for me. Life is not about waiting and hoping for that miracle. I had to make that miracle happen for me.

Life's struggles showed me happiness, sadness, anger, and disappointment. I learned much more. I will not let anyone or anything hold me from getting on with my life.

People learn from each other from their experiences and struggles. It justifies the hardship that goes on with these feelings. All are worth considering in one’s life.

Sometimes social media helps people relieve their stressful moments and emotions by sharing ugly stuff online with other friends.

I prefer to be with positive people and with happy people. It is normal to be unhappy.

Get out of that mood quickly and do not lose yourself in these emotions. In the case of death, in many cultures, you can mourn for a certain period, and then move on with your normal life.

Certain events affect people in different ways.

How can all that make any person feel good, especially in the case of death?

You need time to settle in your thoughts, mourn and be yourself again. When you start to enjoy life right away like nothing ever happened it can hurt you the most in later stages.

No individual can be happy or productive immediately, in such cases unless you are inhuman.

In certain situations, you may never get over the death of a loved one, your mother or father, a close friend or anyone very close to you.

Ignore what others have to say. Do what you feel is right for yourself. You can only be happy when you show your happiness without force.

Live your life to what you consider is happiness and be, however, you choose to be.

Feeling sad does not have to be a lasting emotion in your life. Sadness can disappear and reappear. Focus on what makes you feel happy.

Faking happiness can cause you depression. You may think it is a good idea to fake a smile, but deep down, emotionally, you are dying and feeling most of the hurt.

The painful time never goes away if you pretend to be happy.

You cannot get rid of that sad moment if you continue to be and fake smiles. No working time can cover up what you feel inside.

I experienced all emotions and dealt with them to stay calm.

These emotions did not last, and I made sure they did not last to destroy my life. Just having someone besides you to know what I was going through made it all easier. My good friend did that for me.

What Is the Power of Acceptance

Power of Acceptance

What is the Power of Acceptance?

There is no access to a formula for acceptance

Sometimes when you observe others in their experiences you feel content.

You watch others through tough times or know their good or bad experiences. In this, you do not think you will have that in your life.

Have you ever thought it wouldn’t happen to you?

Well, it is unpredictable in life.

Nothing in life is permanent when you realize that you will accept life the way it is.

Embrace what comes to you, in this way, you can accept the changes that happen to you.

Develop a habit of accepting what happens in your life. Have a positive mindset.

To defeat a negative attitude, focus on the positive events. Many challenges put you back or can take you forward and succeed.

Anything can occur and cause you sadness, but you have to accept this as part of your life. It is not about what others think of you, it is about what you think of yourself.

Put yourself out there and feel good about yourself.

You start now to prepare for future events. Acceptance is great when you focus on the positive, Don’t see what bad has happened look at the good that came from that.

Accept or resist.

If you fight or resist what comes to you your mind is blocked with drama.

Accept the present with open arms. Your life flows smoothly when you accept things as it is.

I accepted my life as it is.

Everything I had experienced I accepted as part of my life.

There is nothing else one can do to go forward.

Acceptance is power.

Instead of fighting over certain events accept it. You will find that you feel happier with a peaceful mind when you accept the present.

I made a choice to be happy or I would have been most unhappy in my life.

Yes. acceptance is a choice you either accept to have a happier life, or fight and be unhappy for your life.

Everyone at some point experiences death, a breakup, or some trauma. You accept and move on with your life. Dwelling is not going to do you any good.

It is easy to say move on but it is up to you.

The power of acceptance

Endure happiness at the moment.

You accept what comes to you and feel happy. This makes you as happy as you should be.

Practice acceptance to live in this new world.

You protect yourself when you accept. It doesn’t mean you are weak when you do not accept what happens to you.

To accept life as it is, you need to learn when to persist and when it is time for you to accept.

The reason for your experience counts for acceptance.

For example, when you know what is happening to you and why it is happening then you accept it.

You meet people for a reason, you help them through their difficult times. You help each other and understand each other through those times. In this, you have fulfilled a purpose.

The lessons you find in life are the ones that help you embrace. Fighting the experience will make you feel unhappy.

At the beginning of true acceptance, you believe your experiences are for a reason.

Your understanding can wait, but obedience can’t wait.

Choose to live with the unpredictable. No need to complain and over-think the events.

You can’t change reality.

In many situations, you end up with what you can’t change. It is about accepting reality, right?

Any situation beyond your control must be accepted by you. Of course, you don’t approve of it.

It is painful, frustrating, unbelievable, and overwhelming at times.

The problem you have is overpowered by your mindset. Accept what it is, and it doesn’t mean you are giving up. It means you are accepting and moving forward.

Practice radical acceptance.

Radical acceptance reduces feelings of guilt, shame and anxiety. When dealing with negative thoughts your feelings are reduced.

To accept reality you must gain awareness that shows you are resisting acceptance.

If you wish things were different you are pushing against acceptance.

You are fighting reality when you think in that way.

Remember you can’t change what has already happened.

The thought of wishing you could go back and change that experience that hit you so hard in the face will come to mind. It is challenging and hurts you.

Identify what you can control. In life, it is normal to feel sad, and angry, to feel pain, and to blame yourself. Cope with your feelings to accept it.

The reality is, you can’t change it.

Accept your life as it is. You learn from those lessons. In the future, you can do better for yourself.

Stress causes your body to feel tense. Relax and calm down in such situations. Resisting allows for this to happen to you. Relax with a massage, do yoga, and take a warm to hot shower to relax your muscles.

Be bashful.

Say to yourself you have accepted reality.

Remind yourself you can’t change that.

You can control your thoughts, nobody else can do that for you. To cope with stress or not accepting how things are for you, try talking to friends.

Think positive and read positive quotes.

Practice is what it takes to allow for acceptance.

Try and try each day to let yourself know you can’t go back to change anything.

This becomes easier when you practice daily to focus on reality.

There are so many situations that can affect your life. In most cases, it can be fixed. It is more powerful for you to accept things than to try to change what is beyond your control.

A lot shouldn’t have happened but the reality is it did.

It is all around you that is beyond your control.

You can’t change reality, a battle you have to come face to face with.

Something that can make you feel sad, anger and the bitterness that comes with it. It is important to accept your life as it is. This allows you to face up to the problem.

For example:

If you do not like the job you are doing or you do not like the hobby you chose. Change these and see for yourself.

First face reality and make the changes for yourself.

Accept things and move on to avoid disappointment, sadness, and bitterness. Feel lighter with acceptance. The burden is then removed.

Acceptance is powerful!

The Power of Being Your Person

Can you be your person?

It is never easy to be your very own person in character or personality.

What do you need to be your person?

I have become my person from the changes in my life and grew up through tough experiences, and that happened very quickly.

How do you assess your real being?

Your life belongs to you and improvement must come from within. First, allow the following into your life: Find Acceptance and move on with new experiences.

Be happy and confident on any given day. Share conversations to feel good about yourself, and positive. Be a hard worker in your marriage or friendships.

Face up to challenges and take advantage of your strengths. Learn and never stop learning something new daily. Use your determination to be that great person.

Be motivated in daily activities. Show your confidence without a doubt. Use your positive thoughts to feel good each day.

Use your perfection to show in a project or task. Independence is part of you and is that independent person. To truly be your own person you need to adapt to everything around you. Bring out your feelings, actions, and a sense of direction.

Suck up everything you see, and want, and work it out from there. Be able to think independently. Don’t rely on the opinions, thoughts or decisions of others.

Don't take the responsibility lightly. I found that in myself through the tough experiences from one country to another. You don't have to live outside your culture to be your own person.

Think and act evenly in your thoughts. The character you have shown for everything you really are and from your own person. I know of some people who feel the need to depend on others for their strengths.

Usually, when this occurs such individuals are insecure and feel confused about their lives. They feel the need to hang on and wait for better days.

I don't believe that would work out for me. Such individuals feel there is a missing part in their lives.

Their weaknesses are shown more than their strengths. Lonely people do feel that way in life. The less confident person waits on the opinions of others before taking that leap. They feel pressure in life and choose to have confident people on their side.

Does that work out for you?

No!

To be your person you have to be positive, confident and alive inside to accomplish your goals. Be proud of your deeds. Avoid jealousy, envy and hatred.

I know evil is in most people, but you don't have to carry that around with you. When you choose to live through other people it takes the place of your true being. You are destroying your true being by depending on others.

Depression can take over rapidly if you choose to live unsociably. Cope with your being truly and positively. Your interests matter more to you than others.

A balanced lifestyle can take you places, and a healthy individual shows a healthy relationship. Communicating becomes easier and everyone is happy. The support from other people allows for interactions and plans to move on with new experiences.

All your encounters prove great when you show a healthy lifestyle.

Are you a unique person?

Do you weigh in evenly in your marriage?

Are you afraid to speak up?

Sometimes traditional lifestyles can cause many issues and these issues are overlooked by such couples. Both partners require free speech.

Dysfunctional families have many problems, and the deeper these families get into their problems, they tend to ignore the real problem.

You don't want to lose your uniqueness through any traditional habits. Traditional marriages show dominance from one partner, mostly from men. This way of life can make one feel down and troubled over time. Control from another can make you feel unhappy.

Think about it!

Is that who you want to be?

Always being afraid to speak and not knowing when it is your turn to speak up, can make you feel down or depressed. To be your person you need to stand up for yourself.

Take charge and show your true values!

You come from somewhere and have your roots. Be able to fight for your rights in life. Show your personality and be proud of it too. Live in good faith.

When you show your greater values to others, they see you for who you really are. In this way, you will be highly thought of by others.

Observe and gain your being from what you know best. Your decisions, self-control and responsibilities have a greater effect on you.

Think rationally!

Use your thinking caps widely. You are open to all discussions and like to know the opinions of others. Though, you don't depend on the opinions of other individuals.

An open mind allows you to be aware of your events. Opportunities can go by fast, so attempt to finish up a project.

Being able to control your emotions, depression, anxiety, guilt, phobias, irrational feelings, or any other aspect that you know can take over your life easily.

When you prove to yourself you can handle situations, your person comes up easily. The power in you comes to light with a natural feeling. You know when it is the right time to move on from negative experiences.

Certain behaviours can over-power the mind.

Such as:

The use of drugs.

The psychotic behaviours.

Mediation.

Alcohol.

And other addictions.

Daunting challenges can bring you down.

You can fall apart easily if you let any substance take over your mind.

Mentally, psychologically, physically, socially and personally, all can take you apart and bring you together.

Are you the kind of person who fails in decision-making?

The decisions you make can affect you and others if not carefully thought of.

Sometimes hasty decisions can be good or bad.

Are you lazy in attempting daily activities?

Individuals need to build willpower to be independent people.

An example:

Some people don't have the willpower to give up smoking. I had and have the willpower to move on in a foreign country. With self-confidence, you don't need anyone to tell you how, who, what and where.

There is no need to prove to others of your achievements or abilities. When you accept who you are, these actions are not required of you. Learning from your mistakes shows that you have created a positive life.

Don't self-devalue and self-defeat that brings misery to your life. The way to go is to avoid hanging on the shoulders of others.

You have your own mind so think and do for yourself!

Pleasing others is not a happy life for you. Confiding in others for what went wrong in the workplace is not always the way to go in life. Life is a roller coaster. It all depends on how you choose to handle the ride ahead.

You learn from all mistakes freely on your own, and you want to be your own person, not another person. As frustrating as certain cases can be, your happiness should come from within.

Do you like trying new adventures?

Do you depend on others for new ideas?

I believe in myself.

People are not the same wherever you are.

Life, in general, is challenging and different for every person.

Do you rely on others to tell you what to do, what to say, or to tell you how to feel?

Do you live through others?

Do you cave in when a group is?

Do you keep to yourself and avoid a social life?

Are you lost in yourself?

Do you play your role at home and forget the real you?

Do you feel like an ornament in your relationship?

Do you obsess about situations?

Do you believe that medication can clear your mind?

Are you side-tracked by your decisions?

Do you feel less worthy of your thoughts?

Do you wait for the approval of others to validate your self-worth?

Are you afraid of life?

Once you have identified the above questions you will find your person. One step further into reality. Your happiness is important and becoming your person will gradually show in yourself.

Mistakes That Held you Back From Moving Forward

It has been a while and I have moved on from past issues and remain positive in this life.

Though times can be incredible on certain occasions, I do not allow the negative thoughts to get into my positive thoughts.

I laugh, smile, and enjoy each day given to me.

Whether, alone, or with my family, I remain the same from the inside and the outside.

I have been right about almost everything. I had a gut feeling about my experiences, but my mistakes held me back.

I tried to be friendly with people of all types and learned from that mistake, and that showed me not to stoop down to their level. I am trying to be that Hollywood actress when in the presence of certain people, but it is just not working out for me.

Instead, I prefer to show my feelings to everyone and that is my way of showing my true self. I learned after meeting people, especially those whom I respected but had lost that respect when I saw their true behaviours.

The feeling when you enter a room with people you know is instant discomfort. I often sensed that feeling when I visited a family.

I stopped going there because I did not need those feelings in me.

It was one of my mistakes to think those people were loving and warm-hearted. I learned more about the people around me and found out more about myself.

I made a mistake in thinking that I could be part of a family that did not show me their true feelings of warmth.

I did not think it would be a problem if I just popped by for coffee. Deep down that is not what they truly felt for me.

The little mistakes held me back from moving on with my life.

I was held back from moving on when I worked as a Chambermaid and did not see any progress from the pittance of pay that got me from month to month.

A poorly managed hotel and not many employees to help with the hard work made me feel disillusioned.

I learned that it was time for me to quit. Another mistake that taught me to figure out what I need to do for myself.

I have accepted my mistakes and time has given me more opportunities. I had to do more for myself than to work for an abusive boss.

Life made me see many events with more strength and pride.

I trusted her, and she chose to gossip about me, a mistake that I learned from very quickly. Mistakes are meant to be made and are meant to be corrected for the future.

You should not make the same mistake twice.

I tried and I made sure not to repeat my mistakes, I do not want to go backwards in life. I tried to talk to people and felt they did not need my conversations.

I ignored those who felt that way. I don't need to talk to those who do not accept me in their group. The false people surely know how to smile and talk to you when they need something.

I have experienced a lot of that sort of behaviour and finally decided to not have them on my list. In the beginning, I did have a list of people, but I do not have that list anymore.

My mistakes allowed me to know the people much better, and to be with people who care for me from the heart.

· I do not need a people pleaser and I am not a people pleaser!

I have tried to be friendly with everyone; I noticed that it is not possible to be friendly with everyone.

There are only a few people that I can truly talk to and laugh with to find that sense of humour I have from the heart.

Different mentalities and a different culture have got me interested in the way people live here.

Most people live off their land and have been doing that for most of their lives. I am in no place to compare their life to mine.

I know what it is like to have everything in my life and they do not know much about that.

I am from the African continent, the Republic of South Africa and now living in Europe has been a challenging lifestyle for me.

I know that the local people and I are chalk and cheese, and am at my level of life and prefer to be that way.

Life has changed me here, and all my mistakes improved me in many ways. I avoid talking about what happened weeks ago that is in the past and should stay there.

I do not pick on what happened years ago that does not matter to me.

· Now is my priority.

I cannot change the way people think but I can change the way I see things and do things differently, and I can take risks and not ignore how I got to a better stage.

I have not forgotten my roots. I know where I came from and treasure that part of my life.

· For example:

I know of many people who left Croatia to seek a better life in the United States of America, and after many years of living away, they have forgotten their roots.

They come annually to experience the good of Croatia but do not pay attention to what is in Croatia.

· What is the sense of what you have if you do not appreciate your country of birth?

People who behave this way do not know the difficult life of Croatia. It is only about having good holidays in this country.

I have not forgotten my life back in South Africa. I do not look at life as most people do.

I have seen my years from all sides, not just from the good side, and have made mistakes that kept me in one place for a while but now I must get on with what I enjoy best and apart from writing, my summer job is great.

It has been hard for me to take in all the different thoughts of people, and to cope with the lifestyle.

I know that my life will never be the same again. Going through a different lifestyle and adjustments has put a pause on my thoughts from my past.

At least I have my loved ones close to me, and happy with what goes on in my daily events. My biggest mistake, I did not know the language.

I do not regret anything in my life and changes have made me into this person.

People are the same everywhere you go. It all depends on how you understand each other, and listening is a great way to make that improvement.

I often like taking in the fresh air to feel good and stress-free.

My life is going well, and I chose to be the way I enjoy it best. I chose to be open-minded, happy, loving, and strong in this life.

I have enlightened you on my true side of life. I hope you found this hub an entertaining read.

A side of me that you know more of than from before. In all the mistakes made, I learned from each one and corrected my steps as I moved along.

Are you the People Pleaser?

Are you that person or do you know someone like that?

Pleasing other people is not how I was raised. It is about how you were raised or taught from childhood. I see it all the time in our small community and there are many people-pleasers in this world.

He is a people pleaser!

No matter what the occasion his motive is to please other people.

If he had pleased his wife as much as he pleased other people, he would have a much happier marriage and relationship.

You are only taking advantage of yourself if pleasing people is your way of life.

How does that feel?

It is time you stopped making other people feel happy. In trying to make others feel better while you feel at your worst is not my way of life

When will you focus on your needs?

Why accommodate others so much more than your loved one?

When will you say NO?

Making up stupid excuses is not going to do much right in your life.

For example:

He does not care about his family’s needs, instead thinks of others’ needs. What he is unable to handle or cope with does not matter.

He wants the other person to be happy and fails to see what it is doing to his family. When attending a function to only please some other person is not the way to go.

People-pleasing is everywhere, you just have to control what you do. Sometimes what you want cannot be tolerated, but you do it to put up with it. I do not shut up and put up with anyone, or anything, I know will bring me unhappiness and problems.

Say, ''no thanks!''

Why is it so difficult to say NO?

Be polite, nobody is asking you to be rude and inconsiderate.

Stay calm and be respectful toward the other person and do not do what they want of you. You do not need to hang on to the less powerful and thoughtless people. Make sure you mean what you say.

The world does not end at anyone's feet!

Be straightforward and make your point heard.

Why do you want to please people?

If you are the people pleaser only you will be most unhappy with yourself. Every person has a mind of their own and no one can or should make you do what you do not want to.

When I first came to Croatia, for me, it was only about pleasing other people. I had to visit family and neighbours to make them happy. I could not continue that routine.

I had to stop and when I stopped, I saw a turning point in my life I did not know and sat in silence for hours with these people making me bored and tired and with no communication.

I knew then it was up to me to get out of that situation, something I was not born into. Speak up and do not be afraid to let your words be heard.

People have different choices.

What makes you any different?

Make your opinion heard and put your foot down on such issues. I managed to make myself heard when I could no longer live that boring and pleasing life which made me more unhappy by the day.

If you keep silent nothing will change for the better.

The key is to stop being a people pleaser!

I know of people pleasers and will do anything to make themselves present at events to be at their best for the other. To have a good appearance because of that person and to make that person happy is a whole lot of nonsense to me.

What will they think does not go with me?

Who cares about what they think?

Let your opinion be heard and do not get too involved with such people. You do not have to do what others do. Do not do what others make you do for their satisfaction.

Be yourself!

Do whatever you like for yourself.

Do not think of what others will think of you.

It is self-destructive to think that way.

There must be something that you like to do for yourself.

You should not be a pushover or a manipulator. I am not asking you to be completely selfish.

Those people pleasers out there are weaker and less- confident.

Be focused on your life. It is your choice of what you want to do. Nobody should have control over your life. I moved away from a restricted life into my own life. Nobody can control my thoughts and my life.

You can get yourself locked in a trap if you do not speak up. Walk away and do not look back.

Do you think it is worth having a people pleaser in your life?

The people-pleaser thinks of their needs and not yours. It is always about what makes them happy and what makes you more unhappy.

Is that how you want to live your life?

Life has limits when you go overboard. Definitely you have reached your limit and that can become very unpleasant for you.

You should check it out for yourself. Analyze what is coming between you and your friends.

See who you are up against. Open your eyes to these individuals.

Have you chosen to tolerate the intolerable?

Behave normally and accept, do not accept if you have had enough of a People pleaser. I have seen behaviours that can be most frustrating.

People pleasers are often expecting you to do for them and I have been through a lot of that sort of behavior.

Until one day I said NO.

It was hard to say NO in the beginning when I met these people. When I first got acquainted with the local people, I could not say No and did not grasp their concept, but when I realized how unhappy it made me, I had to stop it!

Nobody saw how unhappy that pleasing people thing made me. It was about making those people happy at the cost of my true happiness.

I had to present myself like I was from the convent, something I did not have to do in my past life. I quit that behaviour very fast.

I tried to understand this behaviour, but could not see it right away. Everything to me at that time felt temporary, though it was not, and I did not see what was happening around me. The early feelings were just too mixed up.

I learned that most people's pleasers live their lives in that fashion due to putting their needs aside from childhood years. They had grown up in such environments.

When you better understand yourself, you will know who can stay in your life and who will have to get out of your life. If you are raised by people who lived that way could get you to that point of being a People Pleaser.

If you live by the expectations of others you will not see well in your life. You are expecting the other to be happier and you do not see it from your side.

You are just known as the one who runs the chores or errands. Your true image will not be recognized by others. It is normal and nice of you to help others. Only do that if you want to, not because others told you to be that way.

Once you know how to help yourself then you will want to help others. When you know how to help others, you will feel much better to do that from your heart.

Do what you want by choosing your actions speak louder than words when you approach the situation from within.

You would want others to help in the same way. Do not neglect your thoughts. People pleasers are more about giving than taking.

Their lives are less fun-filled and more about being controlled by the other. Usually, people pleasantly rush for no reason. Your life is not seen as useful to you.

You feel that person is no longer your friend for you not helping them out, but you do not realize what you are doing to yourself. People do not see your true self. Be true to yourself and do what you enjoy and want to.

How to Cope With Life Changes

Everything disappeared in life from the age of 32, and she had no idea what the next step would be in a new country.

Life is never what you plan when changes pop up and everything you had and had known disappears.

The saddest is when you hardly know how to cope with those changes affecting your normal day-to-day activities. Whether, you move to a new place, or lose yourself in a disaster.

There is something about your life that makes you see things from a whole new side. What you take for granted is often lost and never found until a new life comes along.

Firstly, understand the meaning of change before grumbling about life changes. Individuals experience changes most of the time in many cases, changes occur at regular periods.

Most people react differently to changes. People dwell and look back on what they left behind.

What they should be doing is focusing on what makes them happy. Most people do not even notice changes like a new building coming up, and of the old open store which closed.

The little things in your environment go unnoticed.

What was, will never be!

What happens when your life changes?

Understand that changes will always happen. Changes occur in our lives at regular intervals.

What changes affect you the most in reality?

Is it the change in your lifestyle?

Friendships

Communications skills

People

Culture

Language

Socially, my life was bleak. Not being able to communicate in a foreign language had made my situation very difficult. Society overall can change you tremendously.

If you pay attention to the rest of the community, your interests will improve with new changes. It does not mean everyone can cope with the necessary changes because not everyone is affected by the change.

Who is affected by the change, and wasn't ready for the changes in their lives?

Modern technology shows changes, but such changes are easily coped with within society.

Ever thought of unexpected changes and what these changes can do to one?

Life changes can be challenging, and very painful if it affects your family and lifestyle. Being positive during a change can make you a great person from the inside and outside.

One is willing to learn and forgive to move on to a better life. Everything you own and have is temporary.

Enjoy life!

Opening a new chapter in your life is a great chance to pick up the pieces.

Put the pieces together to find your new self.

Meet new people and learn from them and yourself how to achieve new skills.

You will not learn anything if you do not enjoy every bit of what you take part in daily.

Look at life with love and experiences, happily and have an open mind when change shows itself.

The big part of change is to accept change rather than overlook change.

If you do not accept change, life can be miserable.

Acceptance is more important than you will see delightful things happening for you and your partner.

If you cannot learn about it then you will not like anything you see.

Change for me is unexpected and can ruin a huge part of any individual who fails to understand the reasons for change.

Changes can be losing a loved one or something that you somehow failed to see or protect from going wrong.

The reality is to face up to your challenges and move on with your life.

You are never prepared for change.

A change occurs out of the blue and one must cope with their differences alone or with loved ones, the choice is yours.

A change can be from many events from a breakup with your boyfriend, or to relocating from your place to a strange place you did not know anything about.

Acceptance is important, but sometimes I am unable to accept others, or their lifestyles can be more ruthless.

Have you experienced many changes in the last year?

You can choose a certain way to react to change. Individuals coping with change should avoid negative issues that make them fail in their new lives.

The way one thinks has lots to do with coping with a changed life. Dealing with new experiences can affect many individuals differently. It is part of you, something you cannot ignore.

You must put up with it in your way, the one that makes you feel most comfortable. If people do not want to change or do not want to know about changes they could have fewer opportunities in the workplace and other parts of their lives.

A change can make you, or break you! One is affected, emotionally, psychologically, mentally, and physically.

What you experience from changes makes you who you gradually can become and, in many cases, stronger and more thoughtful of others.

The changes make you feel good about yourself and proud of your achievements.

Look at the change in the following stages:

Firstly, the Primary Appraisal is about you seeing what caused you the change. Assess the reasons for change, and how the change is going to affect you in a positive and a negative way.

Will the change affect you in a threatening way?

Be in control of your emotions.

Most of the time change is good.

Look forward to a new life and a new challenge.

The other is Secondary Appraisal, now figuring out how you are going to control the change.

Think about how you are going to approach the situation.

Jot down what is important to you and the situation.

Think about what you are good at in the new place, like job opportunities.

Find out about the news and events to keep you up to date with your new life and the new place.

The effort you put in tells you how well the situation is handled.

Do not reach out for the bottle every time you think of home.

Avoid excessive drinking of alcohol.

Be with positive people to make you feel good.

Avoid negativism.

Do not fall into the deep end and look for the positive side of life.

Make time for a social life, it is of great importance never let that pass you by and stay home alone all day.

A positive outlook on life takes you a long way.

A small change or a big change is noticed, and it does not mean you must ignore the meaning of living your life as normal.

You must know how to cope with a new life, a new job or project, going to a new school, and when meeting up with new people.

Relocating can be most challenging.

All of which can make you confused, but it should not make you feel dazed.

Generally taking risks, making changes with supportive people, and taking charge of change are crucial to any individual.

When you plan to make that change it is easier to cope with the daily challenges.

Speaking a new language is another opportunity to improve communication with foreign people.

That depends on your place of relocation.

Own experiences are tough, and it can be harder for individuals to be in control of their changes.

How do you cope with a change?

The Wonders of You

I share my experiences, and my emotions and believe in myself. I am positive, confident and love life.

The Wonders of Yourself

As a growing writer in Hub pages, I have an abundance of hubs and learn about writing each day and about other writers too.

Eyes

The eyes stare into deep thought and wonder what will be next.

A look in your eyes explains in detail the true happiness and sadness you have, or once shared.

The eyes tell you when something is not right, or when something is going your way.

Windows to our souls.

You can look away when in tears, or in sad moments.

The eyes can't hide true feelings.

The wonder of all of you which are often taken for granted.

Face

The glowing skin is now free from acne.

Coconut oil has become a great use for me over the years.

The face needs to look good. Appearance is very important to me.

Good care is taken to allow the skin to grow new layers and to stop the acne from coming back.

A proper eating plan allows for a healthy smile and face.

Hands

A perfect-looking hand that feels smooth, cold or warm.

On the palms, the feeling of a slightly rough side reminds me of how much I have worked for those hands.

The hard work shows greatly in my hands.

Also, take care to avoid any dryness.

Feet

You avoid looking at your feet to not be embarrassed by the cuts or dryness on the heels.

Proper care can be taken to avoid any dryness.

The feet need to be taken care of as you would other parts of you.

No sense in looking away and neglecting those feet.

Walking has made my feet feel good and fit.

Wear the right-sized shoes and don't squash your toes in those tightly fitted shoes.

Respect your feet.

Another wonder sometimes is failing to see for yourself.

Smile

A great wonder of anyone.

If you don't smile you will look miserable!

A smile is free and should be practised daily.

I always smile and have made happiness my priority.

The downs can make anyone feel most unhappy, but when you smile at your worst times you can feel at your best.

A foreign life has shown me life is too precious to take for granted.

My greatest challenges have opened me up to new observations.

I like to be me and enjoy my uniqueness.

Personality

Outgoing.

I like exploring new adventures.

Often, I plan an adventure like long walks to make that happen for me.

Bright and smart wins the race.

I like to meet new people and enjoy good conversations.

My social life has improved, and I love what I do.

Writing has shown me so much more about my character.

Learning something new daily is my way of going forward.

· How does my Personality slowly develop?

I had to begin with knowing me before knowing anyone, or anything else.

Something about my life developed fast when I moved to Croatia, and it took me by surprise.

I felt connected to people was my personality development, but I was wrong!

· It was not the way I spoke or the way I looked.

Maybe somewhere in this world, these aspects do develop one's personality.

Unfortunately, I had discovered these aspects along the way.

· I had to be smart and think smart!

Personality development had more to do with my accomplishments and took a good look at myself and realized I had to make a lot of changes.

I didn't think of my life in that way but analyzed my character while with other people and looked at my traits carefully.

During this time, I discovered strengths and weaknesses in my character and decided to work on whatever could to make life simpler.

I did not see this part of me in all these moments.

I had to accept my flaws and learn about myself as much as possible.

My first attempt was to bring positivism into my life.

I needed a positive outlook on life and had to create that for me.

Any aspect could have affected me, and I had to think positive to get rid of the negative thoughts.

I needed a boost to develop my personality and had to look on the brighter side of life.

To have my own opinion and from my mind, I had to be confident.

I look influential in the eyes of other people, I had to show that in my conversations.

I did not want to shy away every time I encountered people.

My life changed and I had to work my hardest to stay on track.

Also, I wanted to feel important not because others are important to let me feel free.

It was and is up to me to accept my life challenges.

Meeting people started, the greater experience.

A great strength for anyone trying to develop a healthy personality is to get out there and meet people.

An opportunity to be someone you have never thought of.

You can surprise yourself.

When you meet different people, you see yourself as confident and not so shy anymore.

· Develop an interest.

I had to learn the Croatian language, and more of the old and new words of the language got me very interested.

The Croatian language is difficult to comprehend.

I showed an interest in the language when I knew the time was right for me and learned to be a good listener.

I observed people who fail to listen to a conversation and tend to lose the point of understanding others in a conversation.

It is so important to listen to one's conversations.

You develop better achievements.

When listening has made a point of the conversation you begin to accomplish your goals.

Fun

You need to show the fun in your conversations.

Boring conversations won’t make you any friends.

Be alert in speech.

Have eye contact, and a sense of humour to draw people to you.

Be a bit funny and your personality will improve.

Charming

Be respectful.

Be supportive, kind to one another, and easy to please.

Don't forget body language.

· Did you know that body language is important for the development of your personality, as it is in verbal communication?

The beautiful wonder of my personality comes with the way I walk, sit, talk, and enter a room.

If I entered a room filled with people with my head down, and staring at the floor, that won't be a confident entrance.

My actions speak louder.

My abilities are polished up.

The skills I have shown my positive ideas truly.

The way I project myself says it all to my audience.

I am just myself in my writing and my personal life.

To be oneself is not always easy in this competitive world.

I am different!

Never think of being someone else.

I gained confidence while meeting people daily.

I couldn't hide from those experiences and shy away.

These moments I learned from and am so proud of it too.

The key to having a charming personality is to be encouraged and do what suits you.

Be able to explore and boost your happiness only.

Everything I did for me showed an appealing personality.

I have faith and know I can do it.

Motivation leads me to bigger opportunities.

I did not give up and made that clear to myself in a special way.

The wonders of me won't disappear.

What I worked so hard for won't splash away no matter what happens.

I make the simple things more important to me.

Toxic people cause you unhappiness.

What makes you different

Life's experiences took me by surprise. I do not depend on the conversations of others and enjoy my life the way I feel is the happiest. I do not care about what others talk about me.

I am 1.65 meters tall and have brown eyes and black hair with a sign of grey strands. I am happy with my weight and self-being.

Are you Different?

You are all different in some way and culture can keep you apart. Personality traits do make a difference in one’s life. Characteristics show the real you.

I am different in many ways.

My experiences have taught me to be unique and to stand out in a crowd. I always stood out in a crowd just the way I was raised. My positive life made the most difficult feel too easy at times.

I have a greater outlook on my life. I think positively and feel joyful. I realized that certain people feel threatened by me and that does surprise me.

I know I am different but do not make an issue of it. My skin colour tells me I am extraordinary.

The advantages that I have are endless. I can manage any schedule and remain calm in what I do.

I avoid panic and frustration moments as much as I can when performing difficult tasks.

Life for me is free and beautiful.

I avoid those who I know are troublesome or toxic to the relationship, and I do not look for a problem and hesitate to solve it. I enjoy what I know makes me the happiest.

I do not wait to solve an issue unless it is out of my reach then I would wait for the moment to get rid of the problem. It depends on the situation and if the problem concerns a certain individual.

I do not take in any nonsense. When I know a person is problematic or is trying to be argumentative, I resolve the issue right there and then.

I do not walk away and give up on trying something new and make sure the task is complete before I go on to the next project.

I prefer to be with my family than with any acquaintances, and am always an observant person and take notice of my surroundings.

I know when and who to genuinely help when in need, and I do not like the idea of cheaters, but they do exist so not much to be fixed unless they prove their guilt is true.

I am respected and accepted so that has a lot to do with my behaviour skills and pleasant manners, and I know how to enjoy myself and how to be truly happy.

Many people in our small community do not know how to have a good laugh. I know what it feels like to have a good laugh and feel that thrill of good conversations.

My life is interesting and different because I can communicate in English and most of the local people do not know the language.

I am special in my way.

Lots of people remember me for the way I appear. My simple appearance makes me look extra.

Exotic and being in Croatia have opened my eyes to another life. My cultural events are uncommon in southeastern Europe. Celebrations are not the same as in other cultures. I am not afraid of taking risks and persistent with my goals.

When I have my mind set on finding a lost item, I make sure to find that item. I am darker and feel proud about my world of experiences. I am open to all cultures and would not let any barrier stand in my way to connect to different cultures and languages.

People are curious to know about me.

Whenever I go shopping or out into town for the day I am admired and stared at all the time. It shows me I am different, and people enjoy looking at me.

I do not mind being stared at and I enjoy that feeling of greatness. They can wish to be but that is far from really happening. I am strong and confident and always positively look at life.

The competitive life moments made me see more than I had expected from myself. I enjoy cooking a variety of foods, and that shows my courage in presenting what I know is worthy of my time.

During the summertime, I do not need a suntan. People often tell me I am lucky to have such a beautiful skin colour. Life is beautiful and I am different in the many aspects that only I have and can have.

A culture can keep you apart only if you have that kind of belief. Many people have issues with weight gain or weight loss.

I gain a few kilograms during the winter and make sure to lose weight during the summer. I do not make my weight an issue, I just deal with it.

I can fit into all my clothing and my trick in buying clothing is always one size bigger which makes a huge difference to me. I never wanted or wanted to be like anyone else but myself.

I do not dress as others do and I do not expect others to dress like me, and I do not compare my life to another, or what I must do. People who behave that way are foolish or have small minds.

Little things amuse little minds!

I just like to wear what I like, and I do not follow any new fashion, not for me. What people think or say about me is meaningless. I have always been straight and to the point.

If someone feels I am a bit too harsh with my words, I do not care for their actions or words. I am fine with myself, that is all that matters to me.

I have love, happiness, and good health and without that I am powerless. I have learned to be myself and speak from the heart.

I am an understanding person, lovable and I laugh easily, and I describe myself as different as I am unique with all my own views and opportunities.

I do not look down on others and do not expect anyone else to look down on me for any reason.

I got my attitude from my great childhood years. Constantly being put on a pedestal made me feel this way. Confident and free within me.

I am always best dressed and feel high in my opinions and in my self-esteem. At that time it made me feel at my best.

What makes you different from others?

You are who you are for all the reasons only you know for yourself.

What can you learn from your differences and from what you know is most important to you?

When you are different that is all you need in life to make you feel important.

What are your challenges in the real world?

Do you wish to lose more weight?

Do you feel pressured by the small stuff?

What makes you feel negative about life?

Are you happy with the way you are, in shape, and lifestyle?

Are you comfortable in your skin?

Do you care what others think of you?

Do you know what it is like to be different from personal experiences?

I know what it is like to be different from my personal experiences. Sometimes when you mention something different it is misunderstood and teasing or bullying comes to mind.

In this case, it is not about teasing and bullying, but about being different in a much more positive and confident way.

How are you different from your parents or other family members?

I Strive for Control in my Life

I share my experiences, and my emotions and believe in myself. I am positive, confident and love life.

Life goals

Individuals are with the positive and negative and with few beliefs such a lifestyle can go on daily.

What is important to live for their purpose is worthwhile in their favour.

Often you must have that clear mind. You are here for a reason to make a difference and to move on to better pastures.

I believe I have a lot more to accomplish, and want to do more than I have already achieved.

Most individuals have a belief in something that leads them forward daily. People share their unique experiences and use this as a source to get a move on with life.

What makes you want to move on?

The beliefs of others encourage you to live better lives.

What have you done with great regret?

Do you make decisions concerning your traditions?

Has your life changed spiritually?

You go through rough roads and choose to follow different paths.

To have an advanced life you acquire solemn beauty and the view of its aura enlightens your future.

Individuals proceed even with fear to follow their dreams, it could be inevitable.

You can go ahead with an open mind. The hope to find someone like you, or to like you for who you are is not an easy part of your life.

The need to relate what you feel and want in your life. Is something that is up to you and nobody else.

In this process, you endure new strength to deal with your challenges.

You can say what you like, do what you please, feel the way you want, and hope for the best from your greatest experiences.

Life is unpredictable!

Respect and love yourself before looking up at others, and before you commit to be ready to take it on.

What holds people from believing in themselves?

The false beliefs of others take on the place of true beliefs.

An identity of any individual proves a point of who they are. The inner love they show is because love is the main ingredient in a person’s life.

Love makes individuals conscious and pure and loving acceptance comes easily. My motivation comes back alive when I look at how far I have come into my new life because I know this is my real life.

Emotionally, one can be torn apart by bad experiences.

When you lose everything from a divorce without any income, life can be miserable providing for your family can feel impossible.

You can create your faith as I have in my new life. I told myself to be hopeful and that everything would be good just as I believed all this time.

I finally now see my life going forward with great positivism. It sounds insane to think of my belief that is all I needed to have faith in my life.

I tried to figure out my life for a while and now I know more. I have a much broader vision of life because I believe it will be.

It depends on the mental state of the individual. If you proceed to succeed you will see results.

Family life gives you love, and support so don't ignore that part of your life. I want to face what lies ahead and what I know will make a difference in my life.

My belief in trust, love, selfishness, sharing and the power of my strengths do make my life easier.

Above all, love and happiness keeps me connected to my life.

People believe the path chosen is the correct one and other paths are the wrong ones. You tend to criticize the path from before and not look at your mistakes.

You must first look at your past life to figure out your present life and adventures. Don't think of your past life instead include that part of your life in your next chapter.

Be a truly spiritual being and avoid the judgment of other cultures. It is about belief. The power of choices empowers the best.

Past experiences could positively impact individuals' lives, even when those experiences were traumatic. Be worthy of loving and beloved.

You learn about yourself daily with a long journey of surprises. All individuals are connected in some way.

When you meet someone you instantly feel a connection with that person, that ought to tell you about life itself. You are our own worst enemy. What you do shows for your improvement or for the lack of success.

Do you believe in miracles?

There is no right or wrong one to assume such thoughts. When you don't have love, everything around you is filled with negative energy.

Some people only think negatively while others mostly think positively it is not always easy to cope with such challenges.

Mostly you live with what makes you feel happy with yourself and cut off what you can't handle.

Who is different from the other?

You seek love from someone or with someone.

You all want acceptance, or to feel important and worthy. They want to be respected and feel a purpose in life.

People want better lives, with a family and a sense of security. I believe you can only have what you want from life if you do something about it.

You will not be successful if you do more talking and have no actions from your thoughts.

Nothing will come to you. Hard work will get you anything in life.

If you put your mind to achieving a goal you will get it without a doubt.

If you are sure of what you want, you will be successful.

Belief is a powerful vibration.

You have to deeply understand the beliefs you have before you make any comments about your life.

The guidance of your inner voice increases your moods and gives you something to look forward to daily.

He did not have any goals, worked from one job to another and expected miracles from his small achievements.

I strive for what makes me happy. knowing the challenges that encouraged a new lifestyle has shown me different cultures.

With many experiences, I see a better person in me and a positive individual.

I believe in myself, hold on to values and live up to them.

You strive for anything you want for yourself. Most of what one strives for is different.

Some individuals strive for a religious belief. For example, they want to understand their relationship with God.

While you will find others want to provide for their families, to be there for their future families.

However, you choose to strive in your life and it shows in your actions. The sacrifices you make show in your lifestyle.

Everyone strives for a different meaning in their lives. One will strive for an active lifestyle.

Climbing mountains and travelling others want to fulfil their goals by writing, sharing conversations or meeting different people.

Whatever you strive for will make a change in your life. Know who you are and face up to challenges without a doubt.

You feel as if you are the only one on the planet who has failed. Look around you and keep at it.

Strive to connect with people, to know others better, to know how to help others in need. Put yourself first.

Inside you, there is something to make you feel good. See what is meaningful to you.

I chose happiness over anything negative to provide me with a positive outlook on life.

Healing requires time from pain and to heal in time is what you need to understand.

Do not think you are ready when you are not even close to healed?

I recovered fast from my greater changes over nearly twelve years and believed in myself and in how I planned to make my life unique.

Mentally I had control over my emotions and focused on happy moments.

While the not-so-happy moments passed I remained positive.

I had to stay focused on adapting, on my relationship with my family and maintaining sanity with my peaceful mind. I enjoyed learning from new challenges and the more I learned the more I knew about myself.

How often have you forgotten to breathe and just went into a frenzy?

Breathing helped and still does and has made me stronger to cope with other issues. I needed my strength and learning to relax was the key for me.

I managed my daily activities with calmness and happy moments. I found myself deep inside and did not feel afraid when I faced up to my situation. I understood my feelings and with ease, I created my life in a foreign country.

I did not want to be wrapped up in my world and forget about my loved ones.

My responses were spontaneous. I did not hide my feelings with any substance or alcohol; I faced up to my challenges and loved it too.

I honoured my feelings and expressed my feelings freely.

At times I felt I knew myself that there was often that surprise and that showed me how I have improved over the years.

Judgment is normal and sometimes you can become involved with judgment about others.

How do you see yourself?

What do you tell yourself about your image?

You are your judge but fail to see it in many ways.

When you see yourself in the mirror do you not comment on yourself?

You can be your enemy when it comes to emotions, especially when you bring up feelings of sadness, anger, or loneliness.

This life can save you from lots of pain if you stop being your inner critic. Think about it, the best for you would be to remove that judgment.

I did that when I knew it was time to move on and in time you too will find happiness from within.

Joy makes you a better person. Including that in your life, do not mope and think negatively about life. Sometimes you become very into the sadness about life and you do not think of the better part of life.

If you have experienced such a life your major suffering can go on for a longer period. You are doing this in this way denying yourself of the reality of the good life.

You do not give yourself happiness because all you know is heartache.

It reminds me of some of the local people. The major cause of their sadness has remained within their souls.

Their focus is now mostly on materialism; the main part of simple happiness is no longer in most of their lives. Certain incidents can leave you with a miserable life over time.

Life is such that with all experiences from all sides how you choose to cope with situations presented to you is totally up to you. The way you treat others is how you should be treated.

If you treat others in a nasty way surely you deserve the same treatment. Respect each other in the same way you should earn respect and be respected.

If you are comfortable with the feelings of others and of your feelings that shows honour.

Do not mix up the issues of the feelings of others and your feelings. At some point you must have been hurt in your life and pain is an obvious part of life.

The interesting part of my life, I listened and learned carefully. I surprised myself in many ways in coping with a different culture.

I did not know I would learn another language, especially one of the most difficult languages in the world.

I did not know I would live in another country and had no idea I would be able to cope with the many obstacles. Life showed me more than I had expected in the last few years.

I did not know my confidence would hold me thus far so I gave myself time and let it all pass by as each day passed, I saw the differences in my life.

My hard work experiences showed me I can do more. I communicated and observed the way of life in the small village I live in.

I understood and opened to another culture and life in my way.

I connected to people I didn't know existed such greatness from them showed more greatness in me, I had battled with proper communication and over time that had improved too.

I was determined to make it work and still am determined to make my life successful and learned to stay focused when in communication.

In that way, I knew how to connect with the individual sharing their stories. I listened to my feelings and made it all possible for me.

I do not interrupt someone when in a disrespectful conversation.

I respect that people have their own lives, their lives are different.

Also, I expect others to respect my way of life. Pain is often the issue you just must make time to resolve issues, only if the issues concern you.

Do not jump to the wrong conclusions that can ruin many friendships. Nobody can stop a change in their life. It is inevitable. Realistically change is what makes you alive with all experiences.

Be appreciative and be a better example!

Encourage downfalls to reach the top. You cannot reach the top without battle, no smooth rolling in life, just struggle before all gets calm and better.

Do what you know will change you for the better, try enlightening your life with literature.

Reading can open new thoughts for you and can bring out a new character in you. Do not bury your thoughts, speak up and live and let be.

A balanced lifestyle is always a healthy one. I learned to do whatever I feel is right for me and what makes me feel the happiest.

To not ignore my true feelings and to pay attention to those who love and care for me.

Just once try not to be horrible to others, be nice and always smile. To be you and show love to others. Nothing in life can be true then you open up and show love to others in the simplest of ways.

A meaningful way of life comes straight from the heart. I love my life and I am blessed with a loving family.

What matters to the heart will forever make you happy and can also make you sad.

Cope with such feelings strongly and with faith. Do not regret instead forgive and embrace each day with a greater image.

Your character shows others that the important part of you should be presented with pride and joy.

All moments come from within, cherish what you have and love freely. You are never alone in this world and do not even think you are alone.

In Conclusion:

Culture, attitude, beliefs, values and knowledge acquired through socialization.

People are not born with cultures but with a capacity to acquire it through learning. The acquisition of culture of the means to attribute meaning to human existence is a lifelong process.

In all of this you gain happiness.

So you can feel confused when with other people be it strangers or friends in socializing you will feel happiness. The whole experience brings joy to you.

I see in myself happiness when I socialize with different people from different cultures.

You can’t deprive yourself from being happy but you can stop yourself from gaining happiness.

Life isn’t fair, but it is good.

If you feel in doubt, take the next best step.

Life is too short to enjoy it.

Life is what you make of it.

Avoid unnecessary debt that causes you unhappiness.

Crying is good, it makes you feel happier.

Make peace with your past so won’t spoil the present.

Get rid of clutter like you would the past issues.

Clutter weighs you down, so does dwelling.

Don’t save candles for a special day, burn the candles on any given day. Every day is special.

Always choose life.

Give time time it heals almost everything.

However good or bad a situation is, it will change to a happy one.

You had a chance at one childhood.

Envy is a waste of time.

No matter how you feel, get dressed up and show up.

Life is a gift without the bow.

In everything you experience, be happy.

What does it mean to be yourself?

You are an individual who wants to enjoy life.

Being yourself is important to know yourself better.

Never ignore your roots. Where you come from who you really are is key to living a fulfilled life.

Society is filled with all sorts of people.

We are who we choose to be in life.

My view of gaining happiness.

How do you survive the ups and downs?

Happiness is from within.

ABOUT AUTHOR:

Devika a South African writer lives in the southern part of Croatia.

The writer has a positive attitude in sharing an abundance of articles online.

You will find the work of the Indian writer on this link https://hubpages.com/@dde

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